In the previous two posts, we learned about human love and divine love and the purpose of relationships. They led to a couple of questions raised by my readers that I will address here. Why are people on the spiritual path often not in relationships?

1. Why are people on the spiritual path often not in relationships?

My favorite guides on matters like this are the 9D and 12D Pleiadians (“the P’s”), who explained these points through Wendy Kennedy:

When you create with another consciousness, they are a reflection for you.

That other consciousness could be anything from a rock, tree, the weather, animal OR another human being, like a partner or a grocery clerk or whoever you encounter in your daily life. ALL of them are a reflection for you.

• For example, you could play out the issue of “abandonment” with your mother or lover or boss. The situation may look different on the surface, but they’re showing you different versions of the same theme with a somewhat different intensity and perspective.
• Kennedy said that usually we don’t play out an issue in just one area of life. The universe gives us many examples, so we’ll pay attention and get it. 😉

A lot of people on the spiritual path have chosen NOT to have long-term, intimate relationships for several reasons.

• Some people want to work on their own self-identity, to learn how to hold their own resonance, and to identify their own energies, to focus on themselves for a while.
• Some feel like they can get lost in romantic relationships.
• Some people may feel that other people are demanding, too needy or a big distraction for them.
• Some may not feel deserving of a loving relationship.
• Some are afraid that it’s not safe to be in a relationship. Someone is going to hurt or wound them.
• Some may have programs from other lifetimes as celibates, monks, etc. They are working to clear those programs in this lifetime to balance spirituality with sexuality.

Once a person is ready (once they’ve learned to nurture and love themselves and to connect to Source within), they will pull in other people.

But it will be a different, more elevated relationship, since they’re no longer expecting someone else to complete them or to make them happy. They know how to do that for themselves.

• Intimate relationships serve us by giving us the quickest reflection of our own frequency.
• They allow us to go to deeper levels, that we might not even be conscious of until somebody triggers us. They serve us by showing another issue or layer for us to work on.

Once we integrate an issue, we’re no longer triggered or charged by it. We can see the purpose and cocreative nature of BOTH sides and why we created it. We’re learning to see ourselves as the cocreators of 100% our own reality.

2. Do you ever notice that once you are in a relationship, all of the sudden people come out of the woodwork?

Wendy Kennedy noted that most of us are looking for love through our horizontal connections with a romantic partner, rather than through our direct vertical connection to Source.

What happens when we’re “in love” with a person?

We think it’s the other person who is giving us the feelings of love, bliss and joy. But it’s actually because WE are opening ourselves to feel more Source energy, according to Kennedy.

• Depending on our ability to open up, our vertical channel to Source can range from 1 inch (contracted) to 6 feet wide (expanded), which makes a huge difference in how we project ourselves to others.
• We look and feel different to others because our frequencies are higher.
• The higher selves of other people will notice you as a “bright being” over there. They’ll want to approach you. Even the neighborhood dogs and cats may stare at you or want to meet you. 😉

Here is a funny video take on this phenomenon, called “Boyfriend Spray” (by www.Comediva.com) that you can view here or on YouTube:

Final Thoughts

To me one of the most liberating things the P’s have said is this:

“Remember: The soul doesn’t care whether you succeed or not – it’s all about experience. The ego says: I must succeed in order to be loved. The soul is eternal and can always choose another vibrational experience. The soul says: That was interesting. I saw how that worked out. I’ll try something new now!” ― Wendy Kennedy

With that in mind, there is no such thing as failure in love or life!